toforgiveone'senemies As I read these definitions of the word forgive, my mind went back to the year 2003. That was the year my ex-stepfather died. A few months after his death, I asked my mom if she had a picture of him, that she would give me. She gave me one, and then my husband drove me to the cemetery where he was buried. We walked up to his tombstone, and I began to shake like a leaf. My emotions were bouncing from anger to sadness. My husband walked back to our car, I asked him to let me do this alone. I took his picture, and laid it on top of the tombstone, and started talking to him. I said, why did you do what you did to me? Why? You sexually abused me, and then lied to everyone, making me look like a liar. I was yelling at him now! Why did you hurt me like that, I do not understand. You were my mom's husband. Then, my mom believed you, and not me. She kicked me out, I had to go live with my sister. You made my life a living hell. You are truly a monster. I will not allow you to continue haunting me from the grave. No more, no more!! Then, I took his picture, and burned it. As I sprinkled the ashes from his picture, over his grave, I closed my eyes, took a deep breath, and said, 'I forgive you'.